BEYOND ORDER

12 More Rules for Life

Beyond Order: 12 More Rules for Life by Jordan B. Peterson, 2021

Better and deeper than 12 Rules of Life. Unleash the light from the darkness.

23 Apr 2021

RULE I DO NOT CARELESSLY DENIGRATE SOCIAL INSTITUTIONS OR CREATIVE ACHIEVEMENT

People remain mentally healthy not merely because of the integrity of their own minds, but because they are constantly being reminded how to think, act, and speak by those around them.

The best player is therefore not the winner of any given game but, among many other things, he or she who is invited by the largest number of others to play the most extensive series of games.

A child without at least one special, close friend is much more likely to suffer later psychological problems, whether of the depressive/anxious or antisocial sort, while children with fewer friends are also more likely to be unemployed and unmarried as adults.

RULE II IMAGINE WHO YOU COULD BE, AND THEN AIM SINGLE-MINDEDLY AT THAT

RULE III DO NOT HIDE UNWANTED THINGS IN THE FOG

RULE III DO NOT HIDE UNWANTED THINGS IN THE FOG

RULE IV NOTICE THAT OPPORTUNITY LURKS WHERE RESPONSIBILITY HAS BEEN ABDICATED

It is a strange and paradoxical fact that there is a reciprocal relationship between the worth of something and the difficulty of accomplishing it.

No happiness in the absence of responsibility. No valuable and valued goal, no positive emotion.

The fact that you are not pursuing the goal you should rightly be pursuing means that you are feeling guilty, ashamed, and lesser at the same time.

What is the antidote to the suffering and malevolence of life? The highest possible goal. What is the prerequisite to pursuit of the highest possible goal? Willingness to adopt the maximum degree of responsibility—and this includes the responsibilities that others disregard or neglect.

RULE V DO NOT DO WHAT YOU HATE

Better to stand forward before the ability to do so has been irretrievably compromised.

Refusal of the call of conscience is by no means the same thing as irritation about undesirably low status.

RULE VI ABANDON IDEOLOGY

RULE VII WORK AS HARD AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN ON AT LEAST ONE THING AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS

It is far better to become something than to remain anything but become nothing.

RULE VIII TRY TO MAKE ONE ROOM IN YOUR HOME AS BEAUTIFUL AS POSSIBLE

RULE IX IF OLD MEMORIES STILL UPSET YOU, WRITE THEM DOWN CAREFULLY AND COMPLETELY

One lie—one act of avoidance—breeds the necessity for more. One act of self-deception generates the requirement to buttress that self-deceptive belief with new delusions.

RULE X PLAN AND WORK DILIGENTLY TO MAINTAIN THE ROMANCE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

If you can get past tears, you can have a real conversation, but it takes a very determined interlocutor to avoid the insult and hurt generated by anger (defense one) and the pity and compassion evoked by tears (defense two).

RULE XI DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BECOME RESENTFUL, DECEITFUL, OR ARROGANT

When you habitually engage in deceit, you build a structure much like the one that perpetuates addiction, especially if you get away with it, however briefly.

RULE XII BE GRATEFUL IN SPITE OF YOUR SUFFERING

If you cannot tell the truth, you can at least not consciously lie.

Darkness as deeply as possible reveals a light that appears unquenchable,

You cannot properly appreciate what you have unless you have some sense not only of how terrible things could be, but of how terrible it is likely for things to be, given how easy it is for things to be so.

Everyone is rendered speechless when they encounter the infinite expanse of emptiness surrounding our too-brief existence.